99.9% Excuses

#FirstCoffeeThoughts

My earliest experience with evil, selfish, lying, manipulative people who would put their own beliefs – no matter how demented, illogical, and destructive – over the well being of others, was my parents. I learned about the solidarity of adults, even in the face of things that were wrong, dishonest, immoral, and toxic. I saw that people who were violent were also terrified long before I understood that fear was the primary emotion to anger.

I grew up with broken people.

In school I saw that broken people were not just limited to my parents and the other adults who believed and sided with them, but also came to include their children – my peers – the kids I was in school with every day, all day, who bullied each other and manipulated each other, and inflicted ridiculous amounts of psychological and emotional torture on each other in the process of trying to claw back any sense of power and control and find out who they were outside of their roles at home.

My disgust, mistrust, dislike, fear, and even my understanding of people around me wasn’t specific to the white people or Black people that I grew up around.

It was everyone who was incapable of logic. It was everyone who hadn’t read Marcus Aurelius. It was everyone who couldn’t see themselves clearly in the mirror. It was everyone who had no ability to listen, reason, communicate honestly, or care about things outside of their own reality.

It was EVERYONE who wasn’t me.

The anger and madness around me that I had to survive alone all my life made me deeply dislike and distrust almost everyone and that doesn’t change.

It doesn’t change according to the political climate. It doesn’t change according to perceived times of peace or ease in the world. It doesn’t change year after year.

People are ALWAYS the same.

They are part of a system that encourages and rewards madness, dysregulation, selfishness, and abuse.

That system exists AT ALL TIMES.

I have been mauled by that system from the time I was a small child and understood how little power I had and that I was a prisoner of my parent’s madness.

I have been brutalized by that system from the time I was a teenager trying to navigate psychotic and sociopathic teenagers who were (and are even more so now) fully capable of bullying and driving someone to kill themselves and feel no remorse, even laugh about it like it’s just another day.

It is a system that BREEDS evil DAILY.

Social media has only given that insane system more power and more reach.

It has only succeeded in allowing people to spread their hatred, lies, dysregulation, and psychosis to all corners of the earth.

It has only given the system that grinds up souls, breaks wills, and twists minds more and more power to do so faster and more effectively than ever before.

I dislike and distrust anyone who uses the system and benefits from the system regardless of race, gender, or politics.

There are a lot of types on my shit list … people who cannot listen, people who refuse to learn, people who are dysregulated, people who only believe in one reality, fanatics, gatekeepers, performative social media junkies, perpetually online soulless losers, bullies, willfully ignorant bootlickers, closeminded idiots … the list goes on and on and NONE of these things are specific to any race or gender.

It is EVERYONE who subscribes to the system that punishes, destroys, or dims souls.

That system is vast.
That system is complex.

That system has existed since the beginning of time and YES, I can trace the roots of this absolutely insidious, oppressive, destructive, manipulative system directly back to WHITE MEN stepping foot on everyone’s land and trying to make it theirs.

I can trace it almost ENTIRELY back to it’s white, capitalist, cis het, supremist roots … but at this point it’s EVERYONE who is upholding it, perpetuating it, and building on it in new ways.

I hear so many excuses about why this system – (which includes, but is not limited to, racism) and everything that falls under the oppressive umbrella of soul stealing and light dimming – continues to exist and grow stronger.

I hear so many excuses from people who say they were born into it and had no choice but to make it a part of who they are and that it’s hard to wake up, break out, and rise above a system that you have been groomed into most of your life.

But those are just EXCUSES.

There are people who are not victims of this system, there are people who do rise up and out of this system, there are people who fight against the system daily, most of their lives even, there are people who teach, guide, speak out, and try to change the system.

They were people who grew up in the same system as you who makes all these excuses about why it’s so hard … and some were born into even more difficult circumstances and they still educated themselves and rose above.

99.9% of people I have met only have excuses … and weakness.

I dislike people who make excuses ESPECIALLY in the year 2026 … there is no excuse for ignorance anymore except the WILLFULL ACCEPTANCE OF LIES.

I find people exhausting, dishonest, dysregulated, selfish, willfully ignorant, unteachable, and too afraid of change to actually do real good in the world for themselves or others … I have no interest in knowing people like that, so I don’t.

It has nothing to do with race or gender or any other blanket categories that the very people I am describing spend all their time judging people by.

CHARACTER is everything.
CHARACTER reveals all you need to know.
CHARACTER is core truth.

Excuse and reason are terms often used interchangeably, but they have VERY distinct meanings.

EXCUSES are used specifically to DEFLECT blame. Reasons BECOME excuses when they are used to avoid responsibility.

Most of the time all I see are people with tons and tons of excuses as to why they cannot be better than they are … and that is what bores and disinterests me about nearly everyone I have ever met.

People have no character.

They are just shells filled with excuses … and I am not a forgiving person.

I don’t believe indulging people’s selfishness, laziness, ignorance, and excuses.

People make choices EVERY SINGLE DAY when it comes to how they want to treat themselves and others.

From the moment you wake up, to the moment you go to sleep, everything you do is based on decisions you are making. You have millions of opportunities every minute of the day to make change.

You simply don’t.

𝐎𝐧𝐞 𝐭𝐢𝐦𝐞 𝐢𝐬 𝐚 𝐦𝐢𝐬𝐭𝐚𝐤𝐞.
𝐓𝐰𝐨 𝐭𝐢𝐦𝐞𝐬 𝐢𝐬 𝐚 𝐜𝐡𝐨𝐢𝐜𝐞.
𝐓𝐡𝐫𝐞𝐞 𝐭𝐢𝐦𝐞𝐬 𝐢𝐬 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐜𝐡𝐚𝐫𝐚𝐜𝐭𝐞𝐫.

Life is too short to surround yourself with people who have no character and no foundation upon which to build anything that can grow healthy and strong enough to support themselves and others.

Life is too short to surround yourself with people who have nothing but excuses for their cruelty, hatred, dysregulation, and fear.

I long ago stopped indulging the madness of others. It started and ended with my family.

There is no excuse for dysregulated emotions and choosing anger and hatred over logic, empathy, and reason. It is a CHOICE people make every day. It is a WILLINGNESS to give in to the system instead of rising above it and fighting against it.

This is why I have almost zero interest in 99.9% of the population and never will.

I understood VERY young that the only person responsible for my choices was me.
I understood VERY young that no one was going to care more about me than me.
I understood VERY young that the only person who was going to help me, teach me, and save me was me.
I understood VERY young that the ONLY thing I wanted to grow up to be was better than everyone around me.

It took DECADES to achieve it.
It took WORK, not excuses.