First Coffee Thoughts
First Coffee Thoughts (previously under “Musings” and “CoSo”) are blog versions of my #FirstCoffeeThoughts multi-thread posts on CounterSocial. These are here for posterity and also to make them easier for people to read at a later time should they wish to.
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Masked Legacy
My father did a lot of good. Too much to just ignore or let disappear because of his generation's trauma, silence, or my singular opinion about one of his masks.
99.9% Excuses
There is no excuse for dysregulated emotions and choosing anger and hatred over logic, empathy, and reason. Stop making excuses and do the work.
On Rats and Truth
Truth is isolating. Truth is terrifying. Truth is painful. But the truth is: We can no longer live as rats. We know too much.
Evolve In 2026
Stoics believed that anger and depression were caused by collisions of hope and reality and people being unable to recognize and reconcile their place in the universe and that is still 100% true today.
Do. Be. Show.
My family wanted me to be ANYTHING but myself. They wanted me to DO, BE, and SHOW only what others - especially them - felt was most comfortable. I said no. You should too. DO YOU. Be your most authentic.
Read The Room
The more lived experiences you have "in the room", the more likely all those experiences, knowledge, mistakes, successes, etc can lead to beneficial solutions for EVERYONE.
No Understanding Required
Learn to accept that other people exist and other people have very different lives, perceptions, understandings, and lived experiences than you and that they aren't invalid just because they don't match yours.
How (Not) To Survive
Just because you CAN'T handle something, doesn't mean there is something wrong with those who can. Stop being the problem and become part of the solution.
On Cherry Picking For Comfort
The world does not exist as only pieces of what works FOR YOU. Refusing to see the wider truth of the world and others is dangerous and delusional.
Selfness Will Save The World – Part 2
I don't blame myself for my childhood, but once I hit adulthood, handling my future decisions and past trauma became MY responsibility. People need to stop making excuses and start evolving.