Essays, Lectures, and Rants : The Thoughts Of Elaine Barlow
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First Coffee Thoughts
First Coffee Thoughts (previously under “Musings” and “CoSo”) are blog versions of my #FirstCoffeeThoughts multi-thread posts on CounterSocial. These are here for posterity and also to make them easier for people to read at a later time should they wish to.
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Selfness Will Save The World – Part 2
I don't blame myself for my childhood, but once I hit adulthood, handling my future decisions and past trauma became MY responsibility. People need to stop making excuses and start evolving.
Premeditatio Malorum
Stoics don't see the act of negative visualization as pessimistic, but as a necessary act for grounding oneself in reality. There is no pessimism or optimism in realism.
The Answer Is 10
The entire education system is about forcing you to change how you actually see reality and understand the world around you.
Change Is Hard AF – Part 2
People are reluctant to evolve and test their character as they move through life because truth and clarity can drive people mad.
How I Learned Control
I have said many times before that stoicism saved my life as a child and this thread has been another example as to how and why.
Feed Yourself Not Your Abusers
Find your best way to survive far beyond negativity. Negativity only feeds your abusers and takes needed strength and energy away from you for thriving.
Happiness Isn’t Real
Happiness is a very mundane, fleeting, uncontrollable emotion that leads to pathological and obsessive compulsions to gain or retain it.
You Are In Control
We can't control external events, but we can control our response to them, finding peace and resilience in embracing whatever life throws our way.
Dysregulating Isn’t Surviving
Survival is a badge you earn but that doesn't mean you can use it to judge others as weak. Surviving is a choice. Your reality is not everyone's reality.
Protect Your Peace
ANYONE can be a psychologist. Letters after someone's name only means they test well, not that they live well or ARE well.