Summary
The world does not, and cannot, exist as only pieces of what works FOR YOU; a puzzle where you only see the pieces that fit easily at first glance and not the ones that require time, education, reason, or consideration to figure out.
#FirstCoffeeThoughts
I’ve talked a lot about Preferred Connotation, individual realities, and personal dictionaries all being things that make it impossible to communicate and know people.
There is no consensus reality anymore, especially when most of the population has either been brainwashed into a cult, is suffering from some kind of mild or severe mental illness, is emotionally dysregulated, delusional, or just simply chooses to only acknowledge what they agree with – or all of the above.
People who have their own definitions of words, need their own comforts due to severe traumas, and whose reality is limited only to what they personally understand create unique challenges.
Everyone’s reality is different and without acceptance, empathy, and reason … interactions become confusing, futile, and sometimes dangerous. No one is able relate to each other and everyone you encounter exists in this kind of uniquely cherry-picked schism between personal preference and reality.
Sometimes people cherry-pick reality because it’s more comfortable for them.
Sometimes it’s out of ignorance.
Sometimes it’s out of stubborn refusals to accept change.
Sometimes it’s just simply fear.
There are many reasons for “preferential realities”, but to exist in a place where only YOUR perception is what is “real” is partly how we ended up where we are now with zero consensus reality and everyone ignoring reason, mansplaining individual/personalized truths, and choosing delusion over realism.
Cherry-picking is not a healthy way to view yourself, other people, or reality
Cherry-picking is not a healthy way to view yourself, other people, or reality but I get it kinda though.
Shit is complicated and overwhelming. Life is hard. People are difficult. Reality is frustrating, brutal, and depressing for many people who don’t have the will, the strength, the support, the health, or the capacity to handle everything thrown at them … but to use that as an excuse to cherry-pick reality or refuse to accept other people’s lived experiences because it doesn’t “fit” with what you NEED your reality to be … is so many different kinds of limiting and unhealthy.
Everyone lives in a completely different reality from the person next to them … but some people think their reality is the ONLY reality and that other people’s thoughts, feelings, beliefs, and experiences are invalid.
People don’t exist solely for your, or other people’s, comfort.
Some people cannot take in the whole picture and because of that, they simply refuse to believe that there is more of the picture to be perceived. i.e 𝘐𝘧 𝘐 𝘥𝘰𝘯’𝘵 𝘶𝘯𝘥𝘦𝘳𝘴𝘵𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘪𝘵, 𝘪𝘧 𝘐 𝘩𝘢𝘷𝘦𝘯’𝘵 𝘦𝘹𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘪𝘦𝘯𝘤𝘦𝘥 𝘪𝘵, 𝘪𝘧 𝘐 𝘩𝘢𝘷𝘦 𝘯𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘳 𝘩𝘦𝘢𝘳𝘥 𝘰𝘧 𝘪𝘵 … 𝘪𝘵’𝘴 𝘯𝘰𝘵 𝘳𝘦𝘢𝘭 𝘰𝘳 𝘪𝘵’𝘴 𝘯𝘰𝘵 𝘪𝘮𝘱𝘰𝘳𝘵𝘢𝘯𝘵.
People who cherry-pick reality also cherry-pick the people who are in it. They see only what they want to see in people, not the whole person. They see only the bad or only the good, but cannot accept that people are complex, ever changing, and not that simple to put into neat boxes or clear cut categories. Such people run through relationships like tic-tacs or heavily judge people who think, speak, and react in ways that conflict with their comfort.
People don’t exist solely for your, or other people’s, comfort.
Well, some people are MADE TO depending on what country you are from and what your individual culture dictates about people based on class, gender, age, and pigmentation … that’s subjugation … that’s slavery of the body, mind, and soul.
Protect your peace. That is important and also NECESSARY to do for your mental, spiritual, and physical well being. But protecting your peace while refusing to accept other people’s reality, ignoring reason, and stubbornly refusing to see the world as a wider, more diverse, more complex place than what you wish it was is not only dangerous, it’s delusional.
Surviving on delusions weakens your ability to actually maintain your peace in a healthy way as it, and you, can be shattered simply by someone saying something you don’t want to hear or don’t understand.
The world can’t be how you need or wish it to be, neither can the people in it. People can only be what they are … with all their limitations, complications, and unpredictability. Your discomfort and dysregulation is not the world’s responsibility and forcing people or reality to fit into the boxes you need them to is never gonna happen the way you want.
The world does not, and cannot, exist as only pieces of what works FOR YOU; a puzzle where you only see the pieces that fit easily at first glance and not the ones that require time, education, reason, or consideration to figure out.
That’s a you problem, not an “everyone else” problem.
